I have found as a childhood sexual abuse survivor that connection and having a sense of belonging critical as a foundation for children and those experiencing trauma. It is my belief that connection and a sense of belonging is vital if we want our children or adult survivors to thrive. Strong research and evidence support that consistent and positive connections are related to positive mental health and well-being, especially in times of trauma. 

Cultivating a sense of belonging is a powerful protective factor for children and adult survivors. All trauma victims need to feel protected and always cared for, to develop their confidence and resilience. This provides them the ability and capacity to manage their emotions, to communicate and share any concerns or worries they may have about anything.

I believe that trauma survivors spell ‘love’ a different way, another four-letter word T-I-M-E. They say time is money, however, I want to create a new phrase, ‘TIME IS LOVE‘. Spending time and being present in the moment with our children and adult survivors is one of the best protective factors we can create, making them to feel safe, happy, and mentally healthy. I understand time is precious and with our life commitments it can be very hard, when there is a choice, the investment in spending time with children and adult survivors is an important one. 

For me, the best antidote has been feeling connected. Creating, and having a sense of belonging with family, friends, and sporting groups. 

I want to give people hope and remind them that the greatest gift they can give themselves is time and attention. Building your village to strengthen your connectedness and a sense of belonging has been my antidote to finding a pathway to healing.